Safe Place For Men Podcast

Episode 46: Coaching Survivor Learned Helplessness

This morning Thomas discusses a coaching session from last night that had him frustrated for a bit as he worked with a survivor stuck in learned helplessness state.  Listen to the outcome and takeaways. 

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Episode 45: Getting Ready

Thomas is all over the place with excitement as he gets ready for the next course and coaching on April 19th. He talks about several coaching sessions this week on  language to define, feeling dirty, voices of the abuser, mental health labels, and trauma disconnecting survivors from self. 

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Episode 44: Consistency Compounds

Happy morning! Thomas shares an uplifting report from survivor Jeremy concerning the ecourse material and gives Jeremy a  shout out of a few more points on being resilient and continuing to do the work. 

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Episode 43: WITMYS (What I Tell My Younger Self)- Part 2

Thomas shares as he chops it up with a group, WITMYS A group that focuses on overcoming the obstacles in life. He is asked the question, "What I'd Tell My Younger Self?" It's a simple candid conversation between three guys trying to put more positivity into the world of dealing with trauma and healing. 

 

Episode 42: WITMYS (What I Tell My Younger Self)- Part 1

Thomas shares as he chops it up with a group, WITMYS.com  A group that focuses on overcoming the obstacles in life. He is asked the question, "What I'd Tell My Younger Self?" It's a simple candid conversation between three guys trying to put more positivity into the world of dealing with trauma and healing. 

Episode 41: When Will the Abuse Stop Affecting Me? When Does It End?

Thomas candidly shares a recent moment.  He was asked by a national organization to participant in a PSA. When he could not contribute, hear the insight he learned about his childhood sexual abuse. When does it end?

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Episode 40: Understanding the Power of Limiting Beliefs

Thomas uncovers understanding the power of limiting beliefs by sharing the story of a Hollywood stuntman he coached, who feared walking into certain rooms in his home. He drops some knowledge from neuroscience on why limiting beliefs are so entrenched and powerful.

Episode 39: Have You Ever Been Arrested or Detained?

Thomas introduces via a life story about the developmental stages that many survivors are locked or arrested in CPTSD.  He lists the developmental stages asking survivors to examine their current lives. He talks about a Masterclass he's putting together for this year. 

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Episode 37: Accelerating recovery by understanding neuroscience

Thomas is asked the question, "Why do you talk so much about neuroscience in your coaching of male survivors?" Thomas breaks down his reasons and shares 4 crucial neuroscience points that may help male survivors or anybody work through issues.   www.safeplaceformen.com 

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Episode 36: No New Year Resolutions -Reenactment

Thomas shares coaching strategies to achieve progress in 2021.  He discusses reenactment trauma and solutions while celebrating 2021 as his 20th year in working with male survivors.  www.safeplaceformen.com 

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Episode 35: New Year's Eve Dump

Big Thank You 30 Days Our Story Project. Thomas drops his last bit of knowledge for 2020.  The new year workshop, male gender socialization and abuse, and a plea to make that change. He's already working on another big project for 2021. 

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Episode 31: Dealing with Critical Inner Voice

Coach Thomas discussed the No. 2 issue that often keep male survivors from thriving, the inner critical voice.  He shares a little psych 101 to explain getting stuck and provides a few strategies to use to overcome.  www.safeplaceformen.com 

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Episode 30: Rebuilding Trust After Sexual Trauma

Coach Thomas drops some knowledge on thriving and starting to rebuild trust after the sexual abuse. If you're caught in the DEFCON high trust wall, he provides a few insights to navigate. www.safeplaceformen.com 

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Episode 29: Sexual Trauma w/Spiritual and Religious Narratives

Thomas is asked to discuss working with male survivors whose sexual trauma and recovery has religious or spiritual undertones. Shout out to the Philippines podcast listeners growing numbers.  www.safeplacemen.com 

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Episode 27: The Message of Emotions

Thomas celebrates the success of another survivor becoming a thriver.  He shares pieces of the course this new thriver reported helped him most the "Message of emotions". www.safeplaceformen.com 

 

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Episode 23: Help Me Understand Male Survivors: Trauma misconceptions

Spouse of male survivor uttered the words, "Shouldn't you be over that by now!" Thomas discusses a few  common misconceptions about trauma to help those who love male survivors to better understand and cope with many of the issues that come with the territory.  www.safeplaceformen.com 

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Episode 22: Help Me Understand 2: I Love a Male Survivor of Sexual Abuse -Porn & Female perpetrators

Continuing the "Help Me Understand" series, Thomas is asked about porn addictions, and help to understand male survivors who are abused by females.  He discusses his own experience and stigma male survivors might live with being abused by female perpetrators. www.safeplaceformen.com 

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Episode 21: Help Me Understand: I Love a Male Survivor of Sexual Abuse

Asked the question from a listener, Thomas candidly talks to those spouses, partners, family, significant others who love and are part of a male survivor's life, but might be confused or can't understand some of the issues they face.  www.safeplaceformen.com 

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Episode 20: Male Survivors building emotional resilience during these times

Thomas shares how he had to flex his emotional resilience muscle this weekend to confront some issues. He discusses steps that can help survivors of sexual abuse become more resilient.  www.safeplaceformen.com 

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Episode 19: Corona: Quarantined Into Abusive Surroundings

Sometimes being quarantine brings out good and bad in others. Thomas discusses how our past sexual abuse history and trauma might make us more susceptible to unconscious patterns of building relationships with abusive individuals or groups.   www.safeplaceformen.com

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