Safe Place For Men Podcast
Episode 42: WITMYS (What I Tell My Younger Self)- Part 1

Episode 42: WITMYS (What I Tell My Younger Self)- Part 1

April 4, 2021

Thomas shares as he chops it up with a group, WITMYS.com  A group that focuses on overcoming the obstacles in life. He is asked the question, "What I'd Tell My Younger Self?" It's a simple candid conversation between three guys trying to put more positivity into the world of dealing with trauma and healing. 

Episode 41: When Will the Abuse Stop Affecting Me? When Does It End?

Episode 41: When Will the Abuse Stop Affecting Me? When Does It End?

March 4, 2021

Thomas candidly shares a recent moment.  He was asked by a national organization to participant in a PSA. When he could not contribute, hear the insight he learned about his childhood sexual abuse. When does it end?

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Episode 40: Understanding the Power of Limiting Beliefs

Episode 40: Understanding the Power of Limiting Beliefs

February 11, 2021

Thomas uncovers understanding the power of limiting beliefs by sharing the story of a Hollywood stuntman he coached, who feared walking into certain rooms in his home. He drops some knowledge from neuroscience on why limiting beliefs are so entrenched and powerful.

Episode 39:  Have You Ever Been Arrested or Detained?

Episode 39: Have You Ever Been Arrested or Detained?

January 28, 2021

Thomas introduces via a life story about the developmental stages that many survivors are locked or arrested in CPTSD.  He lists the developmental stages asking survivors to examine their current lives. He talks about a Masterclass he's putting together for this year. 

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Episode 37: Accelerating recovery by understanding neuroscience

Episode 37: Accelerating recovery by understanding neuroscience

January 14, 2021

Thomas is asked the question, "Why do you talk so much about neuroscience in your coaching of male survivors?" Thomas breaks down his reasons and shares 4 crucial neuroscience points that may help male survivors or anybody work through issues.   www.safeplaceformen.com 

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Episode 36: No New Year Resolutions -Reenactment

Episode 36: No New Year Resolutions -Reenactment

January 7, 2021

Thomas shares coaching strategies to achieve progress in 2021.  He discusses reenactment trauma and solutions while celebrating 2021 as his 20th year in working with male survivors.  www.safeplaceformen.com 

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Episode 35: New Year’s Eve Dump

Episode 35: New Year’s Eve Dump

December 31, 2020

Big Thank You 30 Days Our Story Project. Thomas drops his last bit of knowledge for 2020.  The new year workshop, male gender socialization and abuse, and a plea to make that change. He's already working on another big project for 2021. 

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Episode 31: Dealing with Critical Inner Voice

Episode 31: Dealing with Critical Inner Voice

October 29, 2020

Coach Thomas discussed the No. 2 issue that often keep male survivors from thriving, the inner critical voice.  He shares a little psych 101 to explain getting stuck and provides a few strategies to use to overcome.  www.safeplaceformen.com 

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Episode 30: Rebuilding Trust After Sexual Trauma

Episode 30: Rebuilding Trust After Sexual Trauma

October 22, 2020

Coach Thomas drops some knowledge on thriving and starting to rebuild trust after the sexual abuse. If you're caught in the DEFCON high trust wall, he provides a few insights to navigate. www.safeplaceformen.com 

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Episode 29: Sexual Trauma w/Spiritual and Religious Narratives

Episode 29: Sexual Trauma w/Spiritual and Religious Narratives

October 15, 2020

Thomas is asked to discuss working with male survivors whose sexual trauma and recovery has religious or spiritual undertones. Shout out to the Philippines podcast listeners growing numbers.  www.safeplacemen.com 

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Episode 27: The Message of Emotions

Episode 27: The Message of Emotions

September 24, 2020

Thomas celebrates the success of another survivor becoming a thriver.  He shares pieces of the course this new thriver reported helped him most the "Message of emotions". www.safeplaceformen.com 

 

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Episode 23: Help Me Understand Male Survivors: Trauma misconceptions

Episode 23: Help Me Understand Male Survivors: Trauma misconceptions

April 23, 2020

Spouse of male survivor uttered the words, "Shouldn't you be over that by now!" Thomas discusses a few  common misconceptions about trauma to help those who love male survivors to better understand and cope with many of the issues that come with the territory.  www.safeplaceformen.com 

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Episode 22: Help Me Understand 2: I Love a Male Survivor of Sexual Abuse -Porn & Female perpetrators

Episode 22: Help Me Understand 2: I Love a Male Survivor of Sexual Abuse -Porn & Female perpetrators

April 19, 2020

Continuing the "Help Me Understand" series, Thomas is asked about porn addictions, and help to understand male survivors who are abused by females.  He discusses his own experience and stigma male survivors might live with being abused by female perpetrators. www.safeplaceformen.com 

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Episode 21: Help Me Understand: I Love a Male Survivor of Sexual Abuse

Episode 21: Help Me Understand: I Love a Male Survivor of Sexual Abuse

April 14, 2020

Asked the question from a listener, Thomas candidly talks to those spouses, partners, family, significant others who love and are part of a male survivor's life, but might be confused or can't understand some of the issues they face.  www.safeplaceformen.com 

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Episode 20: Male Survivors building emotional resilience during these times

Episode 20: Male Survivors building emotional resilience during these times

April 6, 2020

Thomas shares how he had to flex his emotional resilience muscle this weekend to confront some issues. He discusses steps that can help survivors of sexual abuse become more resilient.  www.safeplaceformen.com 

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Episode 19: Corona: Quarantined Into Abusive Surroundings

Episode 19: Corona: Quarantined Into Abusive Surroundings

April 4, 2020

Sometimes being quarantine brings out good and bad in others. Thomas discusses how our past sexual abuse history and trauma might make us more susceptible to unconscious patterns of building relationships with abusive individuals or groups.   www.safeplaceformen.com

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Episode 18: Coronavirus Fireside Chat for Male Survivors

Episode 18: Coronavirus Fireside Chat for Male Survivors

March 31, 2020

Extra time on your hands? Are living close quarters starting to reveal dysfunctional habits you've avoided addressing?  Thomas follows-up after the coronavirus "How You Doing?" call from last night.  He provides a little advice for some issues survivors are experiencing.  www.safeplaceformen.com 

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Episode 16: Ways family re-victimize abuse survivors

Episode 16: Ways family re-victimize abuse survivors

March 19, 2020

Thomas discusses takeaways from a coaching session where the sexually abused survivor's family re-victimized and re-traumatized him. www.safeplaceformen.com 

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Episode 14:People Pleasing Sexual Abuse Manifesting Issues

Episode 14:People Pleasing Sexual Abuse Manifesting Issues

February 29, 2020

Is people pleasing or compliance patterns manifesting from your sexual abuse history?  They used to for Thomas and a client he worked with this week.  Learn about "kaput power" and one coaching technique Thomas used to help this week's male survivor. www.safeplaceformen.com 

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Episode 12:Stepping Out Into the Unknown to Heal Part 2

Episode 12:Stepping Out Into the Unknown to Heal Part 2

February 27, 2020

Part 2 -Thomas shares a blast from the past. Two of the youngest guys Thomas has coached share their experience how the sexual abuse affected their lives and the transformational workshop retreat. www.safeplaceformen.com

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