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Helping men impacted by childhood sexual trauma.
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Oct 9, 2025
Oct 9, 2025
34 min
Shame doesn’t just show up — it moves in, uninvited, the moment a boy is abused. In this first episode, Xander shares how silence and secrecy buried his voice, and how shame followed him into every corner of adult life: work, relationships, even his own body. We’ll break down where that shame really comes from, the neuroscience behind why it sticks, and one simple strategy you can use today to start pushing shame back out the door.
If you’ve ever felt like shame defines you, this episode will show you the truth: shame is not your identity.
If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send me an email. I read my messages — your thoughts and your story matter here.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Sep 25, 2025
Sep 25, 2025
29 min
Survival mode doesn’t always look like fear — sometimes it looks like procrastination, perfectionism, or endless busyness. In this episode, Alejandro’s story reveals how the nervous system keeps survivors stuck, and how you can spot the signs in your own life.
If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send email. I read my email messages — your thoughts and your story matter here.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
May 12, 2025
May 12, 2025
59 min
In this powerful and eye-opening episode, Walking Time Bombs: Childhood Trauma in Adult Men, we explore how unresolved childhood abuse and emotional neglect can silently shape a man’s adult life—impacting his work, relationships, and sense of self. Through storytelling, expert insights, and real voices, we uncover how trauma often hides behind success, control, anger, and burnout. This episode invites men—and those who care about them—to begin seeing past the symptoms and into the deeper roots of emotional pain. Because healing starts with recognition, and survival isn’t the same as truly living.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Feb 25, 2025
Feb 25, 2025
38 min
In this episode, Coach Thomas continues the journey of recovery, guiding you through the challenges of disclosure. Sharing your story can be terrifying—who do you tell? What fears hold you back? Tonight, we explore the barriers to disclosure and how opening up can be a powerful step toward healing. Tune in and discover another path to freedom.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Jan 29, 2025
Jan 29, 2025
1 hr 2 min
After taking a year-long sabbatical at the end of 2023 to focus on personal growth and reflection, Coach T is back and ready to dive into the hard conversations that matter most. In tonight’s much-anticipated live show, Coach T makes a slight shift in plans but delivers an impactful session on how the guilt from childhood sexual trauma keeps many survivors trapped in silence. Tune in as he shares a powerful word technique to help you start breaking free from guilt and begin reclaiming your voice. This is the start of a journey toward healing and transformation—don’t miss it!
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Feb 3, 2024
Feb 3, 2024
59 min
Today's podcast Coach T is interviewed by Katie. Katie Koestner – First woman in history to speak out nationally as the victim of “date” rape. Cover of TIME magazine at age 18. Subject of movies on HBO and Lifetime. Outspoken activist and entrepreneur.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Jan 17, 2024
Jan 17, 2024
39 min
Coach T explores the lasting emotional effects and profound losses caused by childhood sexual trauma, helping survivors make sense of their experiences and move toward a life of greater freedom, hope, and resilience.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Dec 30, 2023
Dec 30, 2023
38 min
Coach T concludes the year by exploring how childhood sexual abuse can disrupt sexual satisfaction, helping survivors better understand these challenges and discover pathways toward healing and healthy intimacy.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Nov 11, 2023
Nov 11, 2023
39 min
Today, Coach Thomas discusses a prevalent issue that surfaced in several coaching sessions with male survivors last week: C-PTSD and Intimacy Disorder. If this is something you struggle with, know this—you are not alone. Together, we'll explore why trauma can make intimacy so difficult and what healing can look like.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Nov 3, 2023
Nov 3, 2023
1 hr 39 min
It's that time of year when organizations reach out to discuss the unique challenges survivors face during the holiday season. In this interview with NAASCA (National Association of Adult Survivors of Child Abuse), Coach Thomas shares practical insights and hope for those navigating this difficult time.
I hope you enjoy the conversation. And remember: until you take the steps toward healing, you remain in the same place. Healing begins with the courage to take the next step.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Jun 10, 2023
Jun 10, 2023
24 min
Coach Thomas discusses the impact of C-PTSD on the lives of male survivors and shares highlights and talks about the healing workshop being held in Fiji on September 21–24, 2023. Learn how understanding trauma can become the first step toward lasting recovery and personal freedom.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Aug 26, 2022
Aug 26, 2022
45 min
Coach T shares raw, unfiltered moments from his recent trip back home—the place where his own childhood sexual abuse occurred. He opens up about encountering a family perpetrator, the painful burden of protecting another family member, and the emotions that resurfaced along the way. It's honest, vulnerable, and deeply personal. Plus, updates on the digital magazine plans for an upcoming healing workshop in Canada.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Aug 5, 2022
Aug 5, 2022
31 min
Today's podcast explores arrested emotional development following childhood sexual abuse. Many survivors look like adults on the outside—with careers, families, responsibilities, and success—but inside, parts of them remain five, ten, twelve, or sixteen years old, frozen at the age when trauma disrupted their emotional development. Coach T explains why this happens, how it affects adult life and relationships, and what it takes to begin moving forward again.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Jul 22, 2022
Jul 22, 2022
45 min
This morning Coach T shares working with a client and turning chronic stress into optimal stress. He discusses a bit of neuroscience of riding the wave of adaptive stress to rest and recovery. He introduces Raj, the new digital magazine coming, and building more resources for male survivors.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Jul 15, 2022
Jul 15, 2022
35 min
In this heartfelt episode, Coach T pays tribute to two military survivors from the Safe Place workshop and coaching community who have recently passed. As we remember their lives, we also honor their courage to share parts of their stories, confront the impact of childhood sexual abuse, and pursue healing. Though their journey has ended, their willingness to face the pain brought greater freedom, dignity, and a sense of justice that continues to inspire others. Rest in power, brothers.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Jul 2, 2022
Jul 2, 2022
33 min
In Part 2 of What It Takes, Coach T explores practical ways to measure your progress as you heal from childhood sexual abuse. He shares meaningful signs of growth, discusses the Toddler's Credo and the valuable lessons it offers for recovery, and encourages survivors to recognize that healing is measured by progress—not perfection. Coach T also introduces the possibility of live podcasts for Insider members, where listeners can call in, ask questions, and participate in real-time conversations.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Jun 25, 2022
Jun 25, 2022
40 min
How long have you been putting off the work of healing from childhood sexual abuse? In Part 1 of What It Takes to Start Healing, Coach T explores why so many survivors remain stuck and what it takes to begin moving forward. Trauma can leave us feeling numb, disconnected, anxious, and unable to trust ourselves or others. Coach T introduces five foundational steps that can help you break through procrastination, begin rebuilding safety, and take meaningful steps toward lasting healing
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Apr 15, 2022
Apr 15, 2022
18 min
In today's episode, Coach T responds to a question from an Insider about recurring random sexual encounters and what may be happening beneath the surface. He explores the possible connection between childhood sexual abuse, the brain, and compulsive sexual behaviors. For a deeper discussion on the relationship between sexual addiction and sexual abuse, Coach T invites listeners to continue the conversation on the Insider's Podcast.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Apr 1, 2022
Apr 1, 2022
35 min
In today's episode, Coach T discusses the lasting impact of betrayal trauma and how the deepest wounds often come from those we trusted most. He also shares his experience being interviewed by an actor preparing to portray a survivor, offering insight into the emotional and psychological aftermath of childhood sexual abuse that can remain long after the abuse has ended. As always, Coach T brings hope by showing that understanding betrayal is an important step toward healing.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Feb 22, 2022
Feb 22, 2022
12 min
It's Tuesday, and this is a special one-off episode. Coach Thomas responds to the strong reactions and backlash generated by the previous podcast, addressing some of the challenging conversations it sparked. He also previews this Friday's Insider episode, where he'll explore a difficult but important topic: how some survivors can unknowingly adopt abusive behaviors during the healing process—and what it takes to recognize and change those patterns.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™