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Adult men rising above our childhood, adolescent or adult sexual abuse trauma experiences
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Thursday Apr 02, 2026
Thursday Apr 02, 2026
Living with a male survivor. Closeness shows up—and then disappears.
This segment breaks down the confusing moment where connection turns into distance, and why a male survivor’s nervous system can’t always stay in intimacy—even when he wants to.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas
Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com
Thursday Feb 26, 2026
Thursday Feb 26, 2026
This episode unpacks the silent, explosive, misunderstood anger that male survivors carry for decades. Through Andrew’s story, we explore how childhood sexual abuse traps emotional energy, disrupts identity, and creates adult anger patterns that feel unpredictable and shame-inducing.
If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, hit the send email. I read every message — your thoughts and your story matter here.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas
Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com
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Thursday Feb 12, 2026
Thursday Feb 12, 2026
Jamal grew up believing isolation was strength. After being abused by a respected male figure and repeatedly misunderstood in therapy, trust became a threat rather than a human need. In this episode, we explore how childhood sexual abuse rewires the brain to equate closeness with danger—especially in Black men raised to be silent, self-sufficient, and unbreakable. We unpack why independence can be a trauma response, not maturity, and how healing begins with safe proximity, cultural resonance, and nervous system recalibration—not forced vulnerability.
This isn't a conversation about “opening up.”
It's about learning to exist around people without preparing for harm.
With you in this,
Coach Thomas Edward
Carry Less. Live Free!
Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com
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Thursday Jan 29, 2026
Thursday Jan 29, 2026
Darren spent decades sculpting a nearly perfect body, but no amount of muscle erased the shame imprinted during childhood sexual abuse. In this episode, we explore how trauma rewires the brain’s interoception system, how gym culture can reinforce unresolved wounds, and how healing requires inhabiting the body rather than managing it.
This is not a story of fitness.
It’s a story of finally coming home to your body.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas
Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com
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Thursday Jan 15, 2026
Thursday Jan 15, 2026
Nighttime wasn’t rest for Diego—it was danger. As a child, he was sexually abused during overnight stays with family, and his body learned that darkness meant vulnerability. Decades later, he couldn’t sleep, woke with panic attacks, kept lights on, and stayed awake until sunrise “just in case.”
In this episode, we explore how nighttime trauma rewires the brain, suppresses REM sleep, reverses cortisol cycles, and creates lifelong insomnia. We walk through how Diego reclaimed safety in the dark—not by forcing sleep, but by teaching his nervous system that night no longer equals danger.
If nighttime is where your past returns, this episode is for you.
With you in this,
Coach Thomas
Carry Less. Live Free!
Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com
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Thursday Jan 01, 2026
Thursday Jan 01, 2026
Every man carries a story about his father — what he gave, what he withheld, and what that silence taught us about manhood.
For male survivors of childhood sexual abuse, that silence often becomes a second trauma — the one that keeps the first wound from ever healing. What happens when the man you needed most couldn’t see you?
In this episode, Jack shares his journey from silence and performance to presence and healing.
Discover how childhood sexual abuse and father hunger intertwine — and how one man rewired the story of manhood by becoming the father he never had.
If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, hit send I read every message — your thoughts and your story matter here.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas
Break My Abuse Code™ | BetterMaleSurvivors.com
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Thursday Dec 18, 2025
Thursday Dec 18, 2025
For some male survivors, the mask isn’t anger or success — it’s immaturity. They stay in perpetual adolescence, avoiding responsibility, dodging commitment, and joking their way through life. To the outside world, they look carefree. But inside, they’re stuck.
In this episode, Antonne shares how childhood sexual abuse froze his development, leaving him a grown man still living like a teenager. He opens up about sabotaging relationships, struggling as a father, and fearing that he could never step into real manhood.
We explore how trauma wires the brain to chase novelty and escape, why responsibility feels like danger, and the coaching steps that helped Antonne move from avoidance to accountability.
This is the raw truth about Peter Pan Syndrome — and the reminder that growing up doesn’t mean losing joy, it means finding freedom.
If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send email. I read every message — your thoughts and your story matter here.
With you in this,
Coach Thomas
Carry Less. Live Free!
Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com
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Thursday Dec 04, 2025
Thursday Dec 04, 2025
Luis thought sex was survival — but in adulthood, performance left him anxious and disconnected. Discover how trauma rewires intimacy, and how he reclaimed the bedroom as a place of safety and connection.
If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, hit the send email. I read every message — your thoughts and your story matter here.
With you in this,
Coach Thomas
Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com
Thursday Nov 20, 2025
Thursday Nov 20, 2025
Zeke looked like the picture of success — a corporate VP, sharp suit, life of the party. But behind the mask was a man carrying brutal abuse from his father, risky behaviors, and suicidal thoughts. To protect his career, he couldn’t risk traditional therapy. Instead, he turned to coaching — and discovered how to unmask without losing everything he’d built.
In this raw episode, we explore how high-functioning survivors hide in plain sight, the neuroscience behind perfectionism and risky escapes, and the steps Zeke took to break free from his double life.
f you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, email. I read every message — your thoughts and your story matter here.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas
Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com
Thursday Nov 06, 2025
Thursday Nov 06, 2025
Grief feels dangerous for male survivors — but avoiding it comes at a cost. In this episode, Tariq’s story reveals how burying grief turns into anger and exhaustion, and how permission to grieve can unlock real freedom.
If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send email. I read every message — your thoughts and your story matter here.
With you in this,
Coach Thomas
Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com
Thursday Oct 23, 2025
Thursday Oct 23, 2025
Denial looks like safety, but it’s really a trap. William’s story shows how denial numbs the pain of childhood abuse — and how it quietly wrecks work, relationships, and health. Discover why the brain clings to denial, and one simple way to start breaking free.
If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send email. I read my messages — your thoughts and your story matter here.
With you in this,
Coach Thomas
Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com
Thursday Oct 09, 2025
Thursday Oct 09, 2025
Shame doesn’t just show up — it moves in, uninvited, the moment a boy is abused. In this first episode, Xander shares how silence and secrecy buried his voice, and how shame followed him into every corner of adult life: work, relationships, even his own body. We’ll break down where that shame really comes from, the neuroscience behind why it sticks, and one simple strategy you can use today to start pushing shame back out the door.
If you’ve ever felt like shame defines you, this episode will show you the truth: shame is not your identity.
If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send me an email. I read my messages — your thoughts and your story matter here.
With you in this,
Coach Thomas
Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com
Thursday Sep 25, 2025
Thursday Sep 25, 2025
Survival mode doesn’t always look like fear — sometimes it looks like procrastination, perfectionism, or endless busyness. In this episode, Alejandro’s story reveals how the nervous system keeps survivors stuck, and how you can spot the signs in your own life.
If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send email. I read my email messages — your thoughts and your story matter here.
With you in this,
Coach Thomas
Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com
Monday May 12, 2025
Monday May 12, 2025
In this powerful and eye-opening episode, Walking Time Bombs: Childhood Trauma in Adult Men, we explore how unresolved childhood abuse and emotional neglect can silently shape a man’s adult life—impacting his work, relationships, and sense of self. Through storytelling, expert insights, and real voices, we uncover how trauma often hides behind success, control, anger, and burnout. This episode invites men—and those who care about them—to begin seeing past the symptoms and into the deeper roots of emotional pain. Because healing starts with recognition, and survival isn’t the same as truly living.
Tuesday Feb 25, 2025
Tuesday Feb 25, 2025
In this episode, Coach Thomas continues the journey of recovery, guiding you through the challenges of disclosure. Sharing your story can be terrifying—who do you tell? What fears hold you back? Tonight, we explore the barriers to disclosure and how opening up can be a powerful step toward healing. Tune in and discover another path to freedom.
Wednesday Jan 29, 2025
Wednesday Jan 29, 2025
After taking a year-long sabbatical at the end of 2023 to focus on personal growth and reflection, Coach T is back and ready to dive into the hard conversations that matter most. In tonight’s much-anticipated live show, Coach T makes a slight shift in plans but delivers an impactful session on how the guilt from childhood sexual trauma keeps many survivors trapped in silence. Tune in as he shares a powerful word technique to help you start breaking free from guilt and begin reclaiming your voice. This is the start of a journey toward healing and transformation—don’t miss it!
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Saturday Feb 03, 2024
Saturday Feb 03, 2024
Today's podcast Coach T is interviewed by Katie. Katie Koestner – First woman in history to speak out nationally as the victim of “date” rape. Cover of TIME magazine at age 18. Subject of movies on HBO and Lifetime. Outspoken activist and entrepreneur.
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Wednesday Jan 17, 2024
Wednesday Jan 17, 2024
Coach T works through emotional resonance and losses due to sexual trauma.
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Saturday Dec 30, 2023
Saturday Dec 30, 2023
Coach T ends the year discussion disruption with sexual satisfaction challenges from the CSA.
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Saturday Nov 11, 2023
Saturday Nov 11, 2023
Today Coach Thomas discusses a prevalent issue that came up in several male survivor coaching sessions last week. You are not alone!
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