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Helping men impacted by childhood sexual trauma.
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Apr 1, 2022
Apr 1, 2022
35 min
In today's episode, Coach T discusses the lasting impact of betrayal trauma and how the deepest wounds often come from those we trusted most. He also shares his experience being interviewed by an actor preparing to portray a survivor, offering insight into the emotional and psychological aftermath of childhood sexual abuse that can remain long after the abuse has ended. As always, Coach T brings hope by showing that understanding betrayal is an important step toward healing.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Feb 22, 2022
Feb 22, 2022
12 min
It's Tuesday, and this is a special one-off episode. Coach Thomas responds to the strong reactions and backlash generated by the previous podcast, addressing some of the challenging conversations it sparked. He also previews this Friday's Insider episode, where he'll explore a difficult but important topic: how some survivors can unknowingly adopt abusive behaviors during the healing process—and what it takes to recognize and change those patterns.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Feb 11, 2022
Feb 11, 2022
40 min
In today's episode, Coach Thomas responds to an email from a survivor whose partner deeply loves him but feels unable to continue providing the level of support his healing journey now requires. Coach T explores the complexities of disclosure, the emotional impact this can have on both partners, and why healing often requires a broader support system than one person can provide. He also shares practical guidance for navigating this difficult situation with honesty, compassion, and hope.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Jan 8, 2022
Jan 8, 2022
28 min
Happy New Year! In this first episode of 2022, Coach T explores a question that leaves many survivors feeling confused and ashamed: "Why do I still love my abuser?" Drawing from a recent coaching session, he explains the cognitive dissonance that can occur when feelings of attachment and empathy coexist with the reality of sexual abuse. Coach T shares three important perspectives to help survivors better understand these complex emotions and move toward healing without self-condemnation.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Dec 17, 2021
Dec 17, 2021
42 min
In his final podcast of 2021, Coach Thomas discusses a common experience many survivors face after a major breakthrough in healing. Drawing from recent hypnotherapy sessions during his month-long road trip, he explains why it is possible to feel worse after feeling better. Much like the body recovering from a physical illness, the mind and nervous system often need time to adjust after profound emotional healing. Coach T offers reassurance that this "healing crisis" can be a normal part of the recovery journey and shares encouragement for navigating it with patience and hope.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Nov 24, 2021
Nov 24, 2021
37 min
In this Insider episode, Coach Thomas wakes up early to share a few heartfelt thoughts for survivors navigating the holiday season. He offers practical encouragement, gentle reminders, and strategies for making it through a time of year that can bring heightened emotions, difficult memories, and family challenges. If the holidays are especially hard for you, this episode is a reminder that you are not alone.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Nov 5, 2021
Nov 5, 2021
19 min
Coach T shares the next stages and Patreon-like platform where the program is moving. He shares how Insiders will be for those survivors that are now ready to get their feet wet. He will not totally disappear from this podcast platform, and occasionally drop in from time to time.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Oct 5, 2021
Oct 5, 2021
33 min
Fresh back from a conference in Dallas, Texas, Coach T is fired up and admits he may need a chill pill! In this energetic episode, he reflects on meeting survivors, the powerful conversations that unfolded, and the impromptu mini-workshop that came together on the spot. Coach T shares practical insights to help jumpstart your healing and reminds listeners that sometimes one meaningful conversation can become the catalyst for lasting change.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Sep 10, 2021
Sep 10, 2021
24 min
In today's episode, Coach T begins with a hectic morning—a Hollywood survivor guest doesn't show up, a family member is on a ventilator with COVID, and a survivor reaches out in distress because he can't remember all the details of his childhood sexual abuse. Coach T takes the opportunity to revisit the topic of fragmented traumatic memory, explaining why incomplete memories are common after trauma and why healing does not depend on remembering every detail.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Sep 3, 2021
Sep 3, 2021
34 min
In today's episode, Coach T shares a powerful letter from the partner of one of his clients, describing the devastating impact that childhood sexual abuse and compulsive pornography use had on their relationship. He explains why these struggles often become "the gift that keeps stealing and taking" and discusses the strategies that helped this client make meaningful progress when previous approaches had fallen short. Coach T also announces that the next cohort of his healing program begins next week.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Aug 6, 2021
Aug 6, 2021
24 min
In today's episode, Coach T shares updates from his latest adventures, and the challenges of dealing with smoke from the surrounding wildfires. He also explains how his online coaching program is helping accelerate the healing process for survivors. Then he takes a deeper dive into understanding the inner critic—where it comes from, how childhood sexual abuse can shape its voice, and practical ways to begin challenging its influence.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Jun 17, 2021
Jun 17, 2021
25 min
In today's episode, Coach Thomas introduces the launch of his next online course and coaching program. He also shares his Recovery Intentions and explains why every survivor needs clear intentions to guide the healing journey. By identifying the direction you want to grow, you can measure meaningful progress instead of simply hoping for change. Coach T encourages survivors to be intentional about their recovery and evaluate whether their daily choices are moving them toward the life they truly desire.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
May 20, 2021
May 20, 2021
24 min
After walking the dog this morning, Coach Thomas reflects on a recent coaching session with a survivor whose relentless focus on "staying positive" was actually hindering and prolonging his recovery. In this episode, he explores how even good things can become unhealthy when they keep us from acknowledging pain, processing emotions, and facing the realities of trauma. Sometimes healing requires more than positive thinking—it requires honest engagement with the wounds that need attention.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Apr 22, 2021
Apr 22, 2021
23 min
In today's episode, Coach Thomas reflects on a coaching session from the previous evening that initially left him frustrated as he worked with a survivor trapped in a state of learned helplessness. He explains how trauma can convince survivors that nothing they do will make a difference, keeping them stuck even when opportunities for change exist. Listen as Coach T shares how the session unfolded, the breakthrough that followed, and the key takeaways for anyone feeling powerless in their own healing journey.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Apr 16, 2021
Apr 16, 2021
24 min
In today's episode, Coach Thomas is full of excitement as he prepares for the next online course and coaching program. Along the way, he reflects on several powerful coaching sessions from the week, covering topics such as finding the right language to define the abuse, feeling "dirty," recognizing the lingering voices of the abuser, looking beyond mental health labels, and understanding how trauma disconnects survivors from their authentic selves. It's an honest and insightful conversation filled with practical encouragement for the healing journey.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Apr 8, 2021
Apr 8, 2021
21 min
Happy morning! In today's episode, Coach Thomas shares an encouraging update from survivor Jeremy about the impact of the online course materials on his healing journey. Giving Jeremy a well-deserved shout-out, Coach T highlights the power of consistency, resilience, and continuing to do the work—even when progress feels slow. Discover why small, steady steps compound over time and become the foundation for lasting recovery.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Apr 5, 2021
Apr 5, 2021
49 min
In Part 2 of WITMYS (What I'd Tell My Younger Self), Coach Thomas joins two others for a candid conversation about overcoming life's obstacles and the lessons they've learned along the way. Together, they reflect on the question, "What would I tell my younger self?" Through honest storytelling and practical wisdom, these three men offer encouragement, hope, and a positive perspective for anyone navigating the challenges of trauma and healing.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Apr 4, 2021
Apr 4, 2021
30 min
In Part 1 of WITMYS (What I'd Tell My Younger Self), Coach Thomas joins the team at WITMYS for a candid conversation about overcoming life's obstacles and finding hope through healing. Together, they explore the question, "What would I tell my younger self?" In this honest discussion, three men share personal reflections, lessons learned, and words of encouragement for anyone navigating the lasting impact of trauma.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Mar 4, 2021
Mar 4, 2021
16 min
In today's episode, Coach Thomas candidly reflects on a recent experience after being invited by a national organization to participate in a public service announcement. When he realized he couldn't contribute in the way he expected, it revealed an unexpected insight into how childhood sexual abuse can continue to influence us years later. When does the impact of abuse finally end? Coach T explores this important question with honesty, compassion, and hope for every survivor on the healing journey.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Feb 11, 2021
Feb 11, 2021
29 min
In today's episode, Coach Thomas explores the power of limiting beliefs through the story of a Hollywood stuntman he coached who was afraid to walk into certain rooms of his own home. Using insights from neuroscience and trauma recovery, Coach T explains how deeply held beliefs are formed, why they can feel so convincing, and what it takes to begin challenging and replacing them. If you've ever felt trapped by thoughts that seem impossible to overcome, this episode offers understanding—and hope.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™